One secret to a happy marriage

I've been very happily married over 20 years. I guess this gives me the right to speak about one of the secrets of my good and happy marriage. About twice a year Tami and I take a little trip together. No kids. Usually it's around our anniversary in July and the week between Christmas and New Years Day. We just returned from our winter trip. We stayed in Knoxville, Tennessee and took a daytrip to Gatlinburg. Tami and I had a lot of time to talk and one of the things we discussed was the importance of these little trips. We agreed it's crucial for couples to take time away for themselves. Throughout the year that means taking the time to go on dates with your spouse. Going out to dinner or maybe a little shopping trip. Just a few hours to unwind, converse, reconnect and enjoy each other's company. Then occasionally taking off for a night or two. It's much easier to relax when you are not looking at housework, not worried about bills and not dealing with everyday life. Obviously this used to be more difficult because we had to find someone to care for the kids while away. Nowadays things are a lot simpler. Our kids are old enough and (more importantly) trustworthy enough to be left alone for a day or so. They even said they enjoyed a little bit of freedom and having the house to themselves. I have to tell you folks, it's a mighty good feeling knowing you can leave your kids alone in the house and not having to worry about them. We returned home to find the house just as we left it (except some dirty laundry and a considerable dent in the food supply). The bottom line is this... there's no shame in leaving your kids for a day or two. Whether you have to find a sitter or can leave them alone, they'll be no worse for the wear in your absence. Besides, did you ever consider maybe your kids need a break from you too? When mom and dad take time together, they're better off for it and the kids naturally benefit from having a couple of parents with recharged batteries. So there you have it, folks. One of my many secrets to a long and happy marriage. Take time to date your spouse and occasionally take some time away.

P.S.
How come nobody ever told me Gatlinburg is insanely busy at Christmas time? Wall to wall people would be a gross understatement. I mean, how many t-shirt shops, handmade crafts and Smoky Mountain candy kitchens can a person look at? And what's up with the Ripley's Believe It or Not museum? Frankly the only thing I can't believe is that people actually pay money to see that stuff. Sheesh!